Early Saturday morning, in a radio studio in the mostly empty Empire State Building, Curtis Sliwa, the original Guardian Angel, told me that I had “good street credibility.” That’s kind of like the Pope calling you a good Catholic, so I was pretty psyched. (more…)
I think that’s what this awesome article “Why I gave up trying to be a perfect mother. . .Miley Cyrus’s dad has admitted to struggling with parenthood. But there is no right or wrong way of raising children” by Caitriona Palmer in the Irish Independent suggests.
Read the whole thing here.
Ada writes about her experience raising a child in the city and how all we need to raise a great kid are three basic essentials, shelter, food and love and to teach them to be kind and responsible human beings. And the rest, how we do that, is all up to us, you, the individual. It’s all written in short chapters perfect for my attention span and it’s very honest and frank and funny and if I had to recommend ONE parenting book of the hundreds I’ve looked at, this would be it … Reading through it, I had an Oprah ah-ha moment. That small stuff, it doesn’t matter. I need to do what works best for me and my family and my kid and not spend more than 5 minutes thinking about things like waterproof changing pads or watching Elmo or how many snacks he eats, if that’s all he’s eating right now or the fact that he doesn’t dig on wasabi or Indian food or kale or the HORROR of juice. Sometimes juice is good. In fact, I might go have some juice right now.
AnnaCatherine’s a really funny writer, so I’m extra-psyched she liked the book! Read the whole review here.
Rebecca Walker, author of Black White and Jewish: Autobiography of a Shifting Self, said something super nice about Instinctive Parenting (the book and the concept) in a recent interview:
[On parenting books] I threw them all away. They were all useless. Initially I was really into the attachment parenting books, but my son’s temperament was just never that. He never wanted to go into the wrap, snuggly thing. He was just always demanding his independence and reaching for it so it didn’t really work. And it also made me very tired. And then at some point, I just had to let go of everybody else’s ideas of how to raise my kid and just try to tune into who he is and listen to his father and his feelings about it, more than any book. Though I do like Ada Calhoun’s book, Instinctive Parenting. It’s basically, just give them some love. Our hyper fixation on providing the perfect thing, which I spent the first three years of Tenzin’s life obsessed with, is not necessarily best for their long term well-being.
Apparently I am leading a movement! Who knew? Thanks to Sara Fisher for this great article about the demise of helicopter parenting. An excerpt: One leader of the hands-off movement is Ada Calhoun, a mom, founding editor-in-chief of Babble.com and author of Instinctive Parenting, Trusting Ourselves to Raise Good Kids (Gallery Books, 2010). In her book, Calhoun begs us to ditch the “universal ‘best'” we desire for our children and instead focus on what matters: “providing the few absolute essentials (love, food, shelter) while teaching your little one how to be a kind, responsible human being.”
Read the whole thing here.
“It’s like a test!” agrees Ada Calhoun, author of the new book Instinctive Parenting and the founding editor-in-chief ofBabble.com. “I fall prey to it. I really liked getting A’s in school. It’s tempting, when you’re good at that kind of succeeding, to try to do that throughout your life. ‘Best mother in the world’ — like you’re going to get an ‘A’ in mothering! But there’s no such thing.”